Some Lessons

Why do I always feel compelled to write this way… I wish I knew. But I am convinced of it, so here I go again.

Some Life Lessons from the Years…

Feelings reveal the temperature of your experience or environment, but they’re not always facts. Learn to tell the difference.

You don’t have to wait until everything is falling apart to make the changes you need.
Start where you are. Heal forward.

So many people have it worse, but that doesn’t mean your pain should be minimized.
Yes, God cares about every aspect of your life, even the moments when you cry over spilled tea or coffee (Because we both know…the tears aren’t really about the tea).

Some of us need more healing than others. That’s okay.
Don’t let anyone make you feel judged for the path your life has taken.
But don’t become selfish or too self-absorbed. Sometimes healing deepens when we shift our focus from our pain to how we can bring goodness to others.

Always stay humble.
We all think we could do better, until we’re the ones wearing the shoe that hurts.

It’s okay to seek professional help.
Just be sure you’re seeking guidance from the right people, or the right person.
Some may want to hear about your trials, but not from a place of compassion or patience.
Others may mean well, but lack the maturity to truly help.
Be discerning.

Your healing may be linear. Or it may not be.
Give yourself grace.
Take it one day at a time.

Excellence is more sustainable than perfection.


No one is perfect.
People will disappoint you.
Sometimes unintentionally. Sometimes repeatedly.
Set boundaries anyway…especially if you were raised in environments that never taught you how.
You may need to physically remove yourself from places that don’t honor your boundaries or that attempt to misuse you.
It won’t always be easy, but ask God for guidance.
(Trust me. He speaks. You just have to train your ears to listen.)

And when you cross someone else’s boundaries, because we all do, be quick to take responsibility.

People will show you who they are, or who they’re becoming.
You get to decide whether you’re willing to walk with them through their growth journey or choose your own healing.
There may not always be a clear right or wrong in that decision…I believe God understands both.

It isn’t your responsibility to carry someone else’s load if they won’t pick up their own.
Sometimes, love looks like making the tough call to step back.

Be accountable when you are the one bringing disappointment, and do what you can to make amends, if permitted (Romans 12:18).

No human being was meant to receive the worship and adoration that belongs to God.


Not your kids.


Not your spouse.


Not your pastor.


Not your mentor.


Not your favorite “leader.”


Honor them, yes. But don’t idolize them.

The Church is not a building, it’s us.


Yes, God’s Spirit moves in buildings. He also moves through people.
But don’t confuse His presence with someone’s spiritual standing
(Read Matthew 23:13–15 and Matthew 7:22 for clarity).

Don’t mistake applause for approval.


Don’t build your identity on who praises you, they might not even know where they stand.

Hold tightly to Galatians 6:9:
Do not grow weary in doing good.
People will test you.
Some will drain you.
Some may mock your soft heart.
Do good anyway.

Stay the course, not because of people, but because of God’s Word.

Isaiah 55:11 says:
“So will My word be which goes out of My mouth;
It will not return to Me void (useless, without result),
without accomplishing what I desire,
and without succeeding in the matter for which I sent it.”

Some people subscribe to the law of power to survive this crazy world.
Trust God’s Spirit to lead you.
From what I’ve understood so far, His ways are not like the ways of this world.
That doesn’t mean you become a doormat, that is not of God.
He is love. He is just.
But let Him fight for you.

When you receive an inspiration, do your best to bring it forth.
The reason may not always be clear in that moment.
It may not even be for you.
Some things rely on vision beyond what we can currently see or understand.

And always…
God is so kind. So merciful. So gracious.
None of us deserve His grace, and yet He gives it freely.

Your knowledge, your degrees, your financial success… none of it can take His place.
Only Christ satisfies.
Here. And beyond.
He is the ONLY Way.

There is nothing comparable to building your life on God.
Surrender to Him and let Him reorder your steps as needed.
His pace is the key.

Sometimes things pivot, don’t fight it.
It may not make it less painful…
But it will all work out for your good (Romans 8:28).

I’m grateful for every day I’ve been given thus far.
For everything I’ve been fortunate to experience and live through.
For every blessing (Thank You, God).

Though I carry no regrets, there are things I wish I could undo…
Mistakes I’d rewrite.
Disappointments I wish I could erase.
But even with the missteps, I walk forward with confidence. 
Because I have never truly walked alone. 

❤️